Your wedding vows should suit you and your partner only, it really doesn't matter what anyone else expects you to do. These vows are made to each other and they are the most personal part of your wedding. If you mean every word and remember them always you are well on the way to a long and happy marriage.
You will be officially married once you have exchanged your vows; they are the most important part of the wedding ceremony.
Your vows represent what promises you are making to each other and what your marriage means.
Many people are now replacing the traditional vows with words of their own that are not so formal, they are deciding on their own words which better reflect the way they feel for each other and what their love means. You may feel that traditional vows are right for you but if not then you should decide on your own words.
Here are the typical wedding vows...
"I [your name] take you [your partners name] for my lawful [wife/husband] to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part"
Many people use these traditional vows as the foundation that they will modify to suit their needs by adding personalized touches where they like.
A lot of people like to include poetry in their vows. and also in their wedding invitations.
Some people also like to recite poems at the reception and this can add a really nice touch to the speeches.
You can get some good ideas for wedding poetry from wedding cards and these might even help inspire you or your partner to create your own poems for the wedding.
One relatively simple way to help you write your own poetry for your wedding is to write down the all the words and comments that you would like to say in a series of sentences and then go to a site like www.rhymezone.com on the internet and find words that rhyme with the words at the end of each sentence.
By rearranging the sentences and making appropriate changes you can create your own poetry that will be unique to your wedding ceremony.
The rearrangement of the words might mean you will need to add or remove phrases until your have a nice flowing poem. You will need to read it out aloud as this is the best way to see whether the poem flows or whether you need to add or remove 'filler' words.
It can be fun writing your own wedding vows or poetry however if you or your partner find it too difficult to get it sounding as you would like then you might need to consider using some pre-written wedding vows or poetry that you should be able to find with a search on the internet or as previously mentioned from wedding cards.
Just remember to never stop having fun because that's what it's all about - getting the most happiness in your life by sharing it with someone you love.
About the Author
Jayne Waldorf lives with her husband in Cheshire,England.Her new web site http://www.waldorfelite.com is a dating and relationship site.It will bring you advice, information,goods & services relating to dating, relationships, weddings, and marriage.
